Share your preferences with your spouse. Compliment the individual's character. Say, I adore chatting to you. You never fail to make me laugh. Compliment the way that they appear. Say it with me: I can't get your eyes out of my head. Miss you. Recognize and applaud their abilities. Say, "You kiss me so beautifully that it is driving me mad that I can't do it right now." I can't believe how good you are at it.