The Birth of Bobby Flay Education Robert William Flay was born on December 10, 1964 in New York City, United States of America. The Institute Culinaire Français Spouse(s) Debra Ponzek ( m. 1991; div. 1993) The author Kate Connelly ( m. 1995; div. 1998) Stephanie March ( m. 2005; div. 2015) Children 1 through 8 are the next rows.